A Question of Concern and Worry

Looking into the windows of our neighbors’ lives, we are never surprised when we see worry behind the panes. After all worry is not just an old acquaintance; it is an expected guest. People who worry are members of a global community that crosses the boundries of race, color, creed, language, and cuisine.

Imagine five friends around a table enjoying a cup of tea and local gossip. Listen to the lady in yellow gingham. Her dog did a “Houdini” slipping through the gate and vanishing up the road. She is concerned and plans to search for the dog. At the same time, worry fills her conversation with all the unpleasant things that might happen to her dog. Her friends are sympathetic; they feel sad. But what if the dog’s owner woman happily talks about the dog having adventures: getting a bone from the butcher or having a wonderful time chasing a rabbit. How does this change the mood? Will her friends think she doesn’t really care for the dog if she isn’t worried?

is it possible to be concerned without worry? Does worry have intrinsic value?

Imagine five friends around a table enjoying a cup of tea and local gossip. Listen to the lady in yellow gingham. Her dog did a “Houdini” slipping through the gate and vanishing up the road. She is concerned and plans to search for the dog. At the same time, worry fills her conversation with all the unpleasant things that could happen to her dog. Her friends are sympathetic.  Everyone is feeling sad. But what if the dog’s owner woman happily talks about the dog getting a bone from the butcher or having a wonderful time chasing after a rabbit. How will her friends react? Will they think she doesn’t really care for the dog.

Is it possible to be concerned without worry? Does worry have intrinsic value?

Merriam-Webster lists half a page of definitions for “Concern.” The pertinent onehere “is a matter that causes feelings of unease, uncertainty, or apprehension.”

When it comes to worry, Merriam-Webster offers several definitions worth looking at.

  • to shake or pull at with the teeth (substitute thoughts for teeth)
  • to touch or disturb something repeatedly (in your thoughts)
  • to afflict with mental distress or agitation
  • to subject to persistent or nagging attention or effort

Stir those definitions into a pot and the result is constant, repetitive, and distressing thoughts circling endlessly through through one brain all day and most of the night. As Shakespeare put it “sound and fury signifying nothing.”

Concern

Merriam-Webster lists half a page of definitions for “Concern.” The pertinent one in this case is a matter that causes feelings of unease, uncertainty, or apprehension. I like to think concern implies acting with intent to modify a situation, no matter how small the action may be.

Worry

When it comes to worry, Merriam-Webster offers several definitions worth looking at.

  • to shake or pull at with the teeth (substitute thoughts for teeth)
  • to touch or disturb something repeatedly (in your thoughts)
  • to afflict with mental distress or agitation
  • to subject to persistent or nagging attention or effort

Stir those definitions into a pot and the result is constant, repetitive, and distressing thoughts circling endlessly through day and night. As Shakespeare put it “sound and fury signifying nothing.”

I like the idea that concern implies acting with intent to improve a situation, no matter how insignificant the action may be.

On the other hand, worry is repetitious thoughts dwelling on unwanted outcomes. Such worry not only generates crankiness and sleeplessness, it ffects your health and well-being: chronic inflammation, higher cholesterol levels, insulin resistance, increased blood pressure, and stress. If you can’t Be Happy at least replace worry with some kind of action, no matter how small.

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KICKING THE TIRES OF MAY 7, 2019

Agave with blossom stalk

Today is the Better Tomorrow

Either I am on the verge of a chronic illness, or my general resistance to life is like a cement block because I conked out yesterday feeling exhausted. But, but, but I experienced a great deal of satisfaction from the results of painting the front panels of the file drawers, and raising the curtains by a foot.

I am getting quite practiced in simply dropping thoughts when I catch myself thinking thoughts about my now situation. It’s a shock to realize how much of my mental time is engaged with rancorous thoughts about other people. They are not dramatic; merely a continuous background rumble like summer lightning flashing miles above the earth.

The New Trick: Dropping Thoughts

When I catch myself thinking negative thoughts, I don’t waste a moment wrestling with it so that I am thinking a better thought. I simply drop the thought, leaving a brick of blankness in my mind. Occasionally, I jump to a better thought. It’s not a better thought about a situation I don’t like but thoughts upon a totally different topic. If I have uncomfortable thoughts about an upcoming bill, I think about flying kites in the stiff breezes of March.

KICKING THE TIRES OF APRIL 23, 2019

graphic of two coffee cups and saucers
Coffee Set photographed by Gabriela Talerico

A Cup of Vengefulness

Yesterday, I swung back and forth between vengefullness and neutrality. The canvass upon which I painted my moods was vengefullness for Easter Sunday, and the entire responsibility for the dinner preparation and the subsequent clean up fell on my shoulders. The seasoning was a series of jabbing criticisms illiciting the impulse to yelling “do it yourself then.”

The Cup of Imagination

There was so much momentum on those feelings that my only way to find ease was to think about something entirely different and engage in completeing tasks that were miles away from yesterday. I did swap my winter clothing for my summer clothing, and that was effortless. It is clear that I am repeating patterns from fifty years. The only way to align with my life of happiness, well-being, and crazy abundance is focusing the power of my imagination on what I want and disregard “the what is.”

For today, I want to feeling satisfaction, happiness, and appreciation. I desire a day where the people in my life are experiencing happiness and satisfaction. For me, satisfaction will be a thousand words in my book. a new post for the Front Door, belief in the abundance that will be flowing to me this month, and development of a richly satisfying career.

KICKING THE TIRES OF THURSDAY NOVEMBER 1

Graphic Illustrating Step One of Using Imagination
Using Imagination: Step One

Feeling bad about missing several days. That disturbs me because I use each page as the compass for navigating a route to satisfaction in my day. Through writing I combine setting an intention for the day with building positive mental setpoint. Today, I must clean up the feelings that G’s issues with her eyes are interfering with my life. Instead of believing that I my desires and goals are taking a back seat, I choose to believe that my focus, my organizational skills, and my capacity for allowing the Universe to work things out has expended.

When push comes to shove I can’t successfully breathe for myself five minutes. My only real control extends to the amount of energy I allow to flow, along with my level of receptivity. My ability to recognize resistance daily becomes sharper and sharper, and I am daily becoming more skilled at shifting the resistance. As I am typing in this moment, I recognize the overwhelming sleepiness is nothing more than habitual resistance.